Gain peace from yourself, not others.

One of my friends and her roommie is in a conflict recently, like many roommie conflict, it is about different lifestyle issues. Hopefully everything will be alright.

Some of the goals of a mediator are to assist both conflict parties to reconnect with each other, to rebuild the relationship that has once lost, and to help them to recognise their ability to resolve conflict by themselves. Giving advices might not be a good solution in a conflict becasue it is easy to get into bias or take side. Conflict parties utlimately won't obtain peace because they are just doing somebody's advices that they may not truly agree with it, if that advices fail, you disappointed both of the conflict parties. Therefore, the effective way to resolve a conflict between both conflict parties are depending on themselves, they need to empower their conflict resolution ability, and earn that peace by themselvse, mediator is just there to help.

I just want to remember this before I forget. XpeaceX