I am trying to improve my grade on my WHC paper, so I try to make an appointment with my professor to see how I can do better..here is what he said:
Me: When is the best time for you to meet, I want to see how I can do better on my paper
Him: Oh!what did you get on your paper.
Me: (show him my paper)
Him: oh! you got a C, it's okay!
Me: ..........huh?errrrrrrrr...
Me thinking: are u serious? C?? okay??? geez.. I don't want a C! I want an A!
Anyways, I couldn't believe his expectation to me is just getting a passing grade!.geez Professor, do you know Asian students always aim for As but not Bs or Cs.......well.. maybe just me.. anyways..I think that's funny..
Life is more perfect because of marriage. The bonding between a husband and wife make a life more meaningful and memorable.
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Tuesday, November 1, 2011
trickster mediation skill
okay, so today I have learnt this new mediation skill called trickster, it was hard. okay, I am not gonna try to explain how it works coz honestly I can't manipulate well yet.. but if I do practice and make it my expertise, that would be awsome! Here is the example of trickster:
My professor went home and heard her wife said: " I can't stand it anymore, you take care of her please!" and my professor wonder what's wrong, and his wife address that their daughter don't want to dress up her costume and resist for so long because one of the wing on her twickle bell costume is broken, so here is the conversation my professor with her daughter
professor: honey, what wrong?
daughter: I am not dressing up, I am not going to trick or treat
professor: Okay! don't go, dressing up is kind of a pain in halloween, you don't like dressing up during halloween anyways, right?, you can stay home and mom and I just gonna go by ourselves and we are just gonna be back for couple hours
daughter: (kinda in shocked that she would get answers like this) but you can't leave me at home
professor: I understand but mom and I wanna go trick or treat and you said you don't want to go, it's fine, we won't make you to go with us
daughter: after a couple mins, she dressed up with her costume and ready to leave the house
mom: How did you do that
professor: trickster
Professor explained to us trickster is kinda like honoring what they want and keep emphasizing what they say they want, until a moment that they couldn't stand and they will admit that it is not truely what they want, sometime conflict parties try to say something totally opposite on how they truely feel, they are being tricky to resist the mediator, however, trickster is playing a good role on using their resistance to push back to them.
Well.. I don't know how I could explain it clearly.. but anyways.. what a great mediation lesson :):):)
My professor went home and heard her wife said: " I can't stand it anymore, you take care of her please!" and my professor wonder what's wrong, and his wife address that their daughter don't want to dress up her costume and resist for so long because one of the wing on her twickle bell costume is broken, so here is the conversation my professor with her daughter
professor: honey, what wrong?
daughter: I am not dressing up, I am not going to trick or treat
professor: Okay! don't go, dressing up is kind of a pain in halloween, you don't like dressing up during halloween anyways, right?, you can stay home and mom and I just gonna go by ourselves and we are just gonna be back for couple hours
daughter: (kinda in shocked that she would get answers like this) but you can't leave me at home
professor: I understand but mom and I wanna go trick or treat and you said you don't want to go, it's fine, we won't make you to go with us
daughter: after a couple mins, she dressed up with her costume and ready to leave the house
mom: How did you do that
professor: trickster
Professor explained to us trickster is kinda like honoring what they want and keep emphasizing what they say they want, until a moment that they couldn't stand and they will admit that it is not truely what they want, sometime conflict parties try to say something totally opposite on how they truely feel, they are being tricky to resist the mediator, however, trickster is playing a good role on using their resistance to push back to them.
Well.. I don't know how I could explain it clearly.. but anyways.. what a great mediation lesson :):):)
Gain peace from yourself, not others.
One of my friends and her roommie is in a conflict recently, like many roommie conflict, it is about different lifestyle issues. Hopefully everything will be alright.
Some of the goals of a mediator are to assist both conflict parties to reconnect with each other, to rebuild the relationship that has once lost, and to help them to recognise their ability to resolve conflict by themselves. Giving advices might not be a good solution in a conflict becasue it is easy to get into bias or take side. Conflict parties utlimately won't obtain peace because they are just doing somebody's advices that they may not truly agree with it, if that advices fail, you disappointed both of the conflict parties. Therefore, the effective way to resolve a conflict between both conflict parties are depending on themselves, they need to empower their conflict resolution ability, and earn that peace by themselvse, mediator is just there to help.
I just want to remember this before I forget. XpeaceX
Some of the goals of a mediator are to assist both conflict parties to reconnect with each other, to rebuild the relationship that has once lost, and to help them to recognise their ability to resolve conflict by themselves. Giving advices might not be a good solution in a conflict becasue it is easy to get into bias or take side. Conflict parties utlimately won't obtain peace because they are just doing somebody's advices that they may not truly agree with it, if that advices fail, you disappointed both of the conflict parties. Therefore, the effective way to resolve a conflict between both conflict parties are depending on themselves, they need to empower their conflict resolution ability, and earn that peace by themselvse, mediator is just there to help.
I just want to remember this before I forget. XpeaceX
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